Last night I was spending time with my friend and her husband. You might have heard of them here on my blog? The ever fabulous Loralee and David? Well, anyway I hadn't been to their place in a while and I always enjoy my visits and I needed a little perk me up. Loralee always has some new design element that she has created for her home every time I come and last night was no different. She had made the most amazing headboard. But I digress.
We were all sitting around the kitchen table and I was giving the low down on our friends and news that Loralee may not have heard. Somewhere in the conversation I said something about myself, which I can't really recall but I think it was along the lines of how I would tell someone how I felt about something even if I knew that they may not like to hear it. Which prompted Lor to say "David said something the other day about you, 'that you always know where you stand with Cassie.'" The conversation went on and I discovered that I'm not always honest with everyone, I can be fake, but it's usually only with people I don't care about. It's the people that are closest to me who I feel okay being myself with and saying what I really think.
It's a quality of mine that I haven't decided if it's good or not. I get mixed reactions. Some of my friends say they like it, but I know there are others who don't. I just tell people the kinds of things that I would want to be told as a friend. This moved the conversation on to how when Loralee and I lived together that when she would criticize me about something I wouldn't get defensive but was very open minded to what she was saying and most people including herself aren't too often like that. I think I would get defensive at first, but then I would usually listen to what she had to say.
I think the only hard thing about being very blunt and honest is when I hurt other people's feelings. And usually I have no idea that whatever it is I am going to say will upset someone until after it's out of my mouth. It kind of shocks me when I realize I've offended someone. But as Loralee pointed out last night. "You always hurt the ones you love." So I guess if I offend you it means I really like you. (:
Really, though I wouldn't change this about me. I like laying things out there. Sure I get myself into trouble lots of times and create unnecessary dramas, but every once in a while it helps. I know I've talked about this before, but it's just something I like to revisit every now and then.
3 comments:
Most of the people I'm around a lot don't want to hear it but since it's the people I work with, it's my job to tell them anyway. I can't remember you saying anything hurtful to me except maybe about my gray hair. So, what about that headboard?
P.S. Glad to see you blogging again.
I'm glad you're blogging again, too! I always miss you when you're away.
I admire your directness, especially since you usually manage to be tactful at the same time.
So does that mean if you've never offended me, that you DON'T like me? uh oh! Either that, or I'm just as "speak my mind" as you are....hence the fact I like you so much!
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